Socially, we are in the midst of a “speak your truth” influence that encourages people to be open about what they’ve gone through or experienced.
In a lot of instances, this appears to apply to mostly negative or damaging life experiences. Have you noticed? Or am I wrong?
Is there a reason why we’re not encouraging people to speak their truth about positive experiences as well?
I wonder does it have something to do with the social requirement of being a humble person? No one likes someone who brags but it’s unreasonable to keep your positive moments to yourself because you don’t want to “make someone feel bad.”
I’d really argue here that we need to hear more about the positive traits and experiences of others. Society would benefit from hearing some of the good things going on in people’s lives.
Yes, it does carry the risk of making the less fortunate feel bad but whose responsibility is that, honestly?
The delivery tone of positive news does matter a great deal. Condescending is always a hard “no”. But, here, we are talking about normal “I got a free coffee today!” pleasant news. After all, the little things matter too!
Feeling bad about other people’s positive life stories is a weak trait. Jealousy is amongst this energy, too.
As we all know, we cannot control anyone else’s reactions to us. Not really. I mean, you can cultivate your first impression to be something true to you.. but, short of manipulation, you’re not in control of how people receive you, your words, actions, or anything else.
And thank goodness for that, who wants the responsibility of constantly worrying about what other people are thinking about?
But I will tell you one thing – whatever you tell the audience is what they will think about…. If you’re telling everyone about the worst day of your life then they will think of you in the context of the worst day of your life.
Those who are healthiest with their mental health will not become emotionally attached to your experience…. But, a lot of people in the world have depression and anxiety and stress and other issues that make them unable to let go of things.
As a result, some people will become attached to the feelings that you have evoked.
That is a responsibility.
Which is why we should be mindful of the personal information that we tell people!
The strongest people, mentally, will not attach themselves in that way so try to be a little forgiving if you can.
Anyway, the fact is that we don’t know for sure how everyone in the audience is receiving our news. If happy news can make people feel sad then it stands to reason that sad stories can make some people feel pleased in a weird way.
It’s very weird, to be pleased at the suffering of others. But remember, we’re talking about mental health.
It’s not an option to live life based on what other people may think. It doesn’t really matter what other people think, does it?
In a way, it does. So much advice today is along the lines of:
“It doesn’t matter what other people think”
but I can’t get behind that all the way.
If we lived in a world where people’s good traits were all that mattered then that would be okay.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where people are treated differently based on their weaknesses and actions.
For that reason, people should be more reserved when “speaking their truth”.
Especially when it comes to mental health, consider the audience that you are letting into your head.
Sharing unpleasant truths has its advantages, namely providing a sense of strength and inspiration for other people who are going through the same things.
That’s all fine and dandy. Why not be a source of strength for someone if you’re able to!
I guess the point I’m trying to make here is that if you have to “Speak Your Truth”, make sure you’re getting some advantages out of it as well.
If you’re going to be letting people into what you’ve been through, think about how sharing this information can help you in the future.
Don’t miss out on opportunities tomorrow because of what you’ve said today.