Perspectives are easily defined as how you view something.
Depending on how open minded we are, sometimes we can allow ourselves a change in perspective after we think a little deeper and find new truths.
Those who are too big uptight will find it hard to shift from their first view on something.
A flexible spirit is often more valuable than a rigid one. However, there are a lot of times that being rigid in our view would save some trouble down the line.
What I mean is, sometimes our gut instinct makes us feel a particular way about something. This is an immediate feeling.
More often than not, this is the best way for you to act from the moment on. But when we doubt ourselves, or find ourselves to be too empathetic, we can second guess our immediate perspective because of something else.
Sometimes that “something else” is the interest of sparing someone’s feelings.
But, I implore us, all of us who care about other people… Those of us who are very understanding to other people’s circumstances… I think that we should make an effort to throw away that “I’m so understanding” narrative and put ourselves first. Even at the expense of other people’s feelings.
It’s only cruel if you’re saying things to intentionally hurt someone. But if you’re just standing up for yourself then that’s okay too.
I’ve learned time and time again that not speaking up for yourself now will make things weird or awkward later. It may also give manipulative people the impression that they are right in however they justify their manipulation.
Speaking of manipulation, I think that the idea of “fairness” is often used to manipulate people into doing or saying things that they don’t necessarily feel comfortable doing.
For example, “If I tell you a secret, You have to tell me a secret.” That’s fine but, if we play by that rule, you’re not in control of the secret that I tell you. You can’t say “I don’t like that secret, tell me another one.” Lol
Anyway, back to perspectives –
It’s MOST important for everyone to experience as many things as they can, as currently as they can. Don’t sit in the same room all day, don’t watch the same movies all the time, don’t listen to the same songs or read the same books.
You have to expand your experiences so that you can stay calibrated and accurate.
If you only talk to people who agree with you, you’re doomed to have a flawed perspective.
And, this goes back to the empaths speaking up for themselves – you’re doing everyone involved a favor by speaking up for yourself. Trust me, you really are.
However uncomfortable it may feel, speak up for your perspective anyway. You’ll be glad that you did.