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How To Be A Source of Strength (4 tips)

So, you’ve found yourself to be a Source of Strength and encouragement for someone. Or maybe you have found yourself being your own Source of Strength.

What does that mean?

Well, sometimes you know when someone is looking up to you.

And them sometimes, you may not realize someone is looking up to you. Just how a role model can be someone you’ve never met before.

When you know that you’re a known Source of Strength for someone, chances are likely that you have personal contact or a personal relationship with that person. Maybe they can call or reach out to you when they need you.

In this way, you have to be available (and emotionally open) to them. A person who embraces the fact that they are a Source of Strength (even if they don’t use those words) will be:

  • There to answer the phone when you need to talk.
  • They will not ridicule or belittle the person reaching out to them, and
  • They’re probably good at keeping private information private.

If a person looks up to you but you don’t know who they are, that’s closer to being a role model. But honestly, why not both? When you don’t know who you are a Source of Strength for, they probably chose you because:

  • You express yourself well.
  • You have an interesting life story that is relatable.
  • You’re consistent.
  • You say and do things that others like to hear and see.

So, congratulations! It is an honor for someone to recognize the strength in you. Embrace it as long as you’re emotionally able to support another person.

Ready to be the best Source of Strength that you can be? Here are some tips for you, love.

For people to turn to you, the doors of your heart need to be open.

At the root of this is the feeling of acceptance that many long to feel. Especially those who need outside sources of strength – they need a hug.

But if a hug is unavailable, allowing someone to feel like you have love for them is a form of kindness that goes a long way.

Along the branch of extending kindness to others, we have compassion and understanding.

Compassion comes from a place if maturity and wisdom. Not everyone has it and that’s okay because not everyone is a Source of Strength, either.

When people come to YOU, Strong One, remember – they want to feel accepted. It makes them feel not alone, not judged.

How to cultivate this skill? Keep calm when someone opens up to you. Don’t over react to their story.

In a way, an over reaction is a little bit like a rejection. Don’t reject them.

Being a Source of Strength means that you have the ability to hold on to what you deem to be important.

This also means that you don’t accept many double standards.

If you don’t have strong morals, at best- you’ll look pretty wishy-washy. At worst- you’ll look pretty hypocritical.

It’s not about having extreme views, it’s about having solid ones.

Last but not least (and hopefully not too obviously lol) to be a Source of Strength, you have to be strong.

Physically strong for physical strength.

Mentally strong for everything else.

There’s an article on this site titled “How To Be Stronger”, I highly suggest you check it out!

In conclusion- life may make you a Source of Strength for several people. The first priority is to be a solid Source of Strength for yourself.

Thanks for reading!

Eating To Feel Better

What would it be like to live in a place where food doesn’t matter?

For one, I think it would be more peaceful and happy. No one would be dying of starvation. And, we wouldn’t have to stress about food labels and cancer-causing ingredients.

What a fantasy!

What real is this: our lives are ruled by food in one way or another. Having enough money to buy food for ourselves and others is the driving force behind the 40-hour work week.

Of course, there are other lifestyle goals but buying food to eat is never optional.

Yes, food is important.

It gives us energy to stay alive, and heal us. We have to have a relationship with it.

Now that we’ve established that food is important to everyone, all walks of life, let’s make a segue into the mindsets of all of these people who eat food.

We’re not all heathy, whether in our minds or bodies.

Even Easy Light Sources was bred out of the necessity to dissolve depression and anxiety.

Food is one of the original Light Sources because “when you eat better, you feel better.”

Food has the capacity to be medicine. The right foods, the healthy ones, can make our health discomforts much more tolerable, if not prevent them completely. Of course not everything but problems like constipation definitely can be cured by eating the right kind of Earth Foods.

Eating To Feel Better is best applied to physical problems solved by healthy foods.

MENTAL problems, on this other hand, can also be absolved by healthy eating. That’s actually a catalyst for this whole business, Easy Light Sources. I noticed that when I wasn’t eating the best, my mental health was also not the best. It takes work and self awareness to draw these conclusions.

What’s easier? Developing a relationship with foods where, when you feel bad, you eat things that make you feel better.

If you haven’t made the connection between healthy foods and a healthy mind then your decisions will be made for you by the food industry.

How?

By falling into the trap of sugary foods and carbs that release “feel good” chemicals into your brain.

(Research it until I add a link in here. Thanks!)

Seriously, it does happen.

Something else that develops with Eating To Feel Better is possibly a disordered relationship with foods.

I don’t like to call it an eating disorder because that’s pretty clinical and too many people will become defensive at the suggestion that they have an eating disorder.

With the words reversed, disordered eating, we can recognize the unhealthy things that we do with food without making it a personality trait.

My disordered eating trend is very common – binge eating.

Not only do I eat too much sometimes, this tendency is usually sparked when I’m feeling sad or hopeless in some way.

And, you know, sometimes I’m just GREEDY.

That does not make it better.

In those cases, eating doesn’t even really make me feel better but I do it any way because maybe.. idk. I’m starting to feel like I’m talking about myself too much.

I guess what this article is attempting to do is spark awareness into the how and why of why you’re Eating To Feel Better:

  • Are you getting rid of hunger pangs?
  • Is your goal to give your body vitamins and minerals?
  • Are you sad and cookies make you feel better?
  • Have you given up on self control and stopped giving a damn?
  • Or, you know, did you just want a snack and you stopped at one serving size?

It is worth it to know ourselves and be aware of the “why.” Then, we will take it from there.

I feel like I’ve just scratched the surface but maybe it really is that simple?

If there is a part 2, it will be linked here.

As always, and I don’t say this enough: thank you for reading!

Plastic-Free Gum

Gum.

You know what’s news to me? That standard gum has plastic as a gum base!

Plastic, who knew.

The way that GLEE gum advertises being plastic-free gives a vibe that plastic is a very popular gum ingredient.

So, gum.

Gum is best known as a breath freshener. It also gives your mouth something to do.

But gum is also not the best thing to put in your mouth when you’re hungry. It’ll make you even more hungry after a while!

But that’s neither here nor there.

Let’s talk about GLEE gum some more!

GLEE gum is also aspartame-free.

Aspartame is an artificial sweetener that is made of chemicals that does yucky things to your insides and causes an imbalance.

I was at the Whole Foods register when I saw these and I added it to the cart.

GLEE gum considers itself to be genuine chewing gum.

I don’t really know what that means. But I guess something like Chiclets. These are pretty familiar.

Square gum with a hard shell.

This was peppermint flavored.

The peppermint flavor was good but it didn’t last long.

As in, about 20 minutes later it’s time for a new piece.

Even though natural peppermint flavor is listed in the ingredients, I have a feeling that peppermint essential oil would have a more lasting impact.

Overall, this was good for a somewhat natural gum. Legendary Khalifah liked it; he even blew some bubbles with it.

Would I buy again? For Legendary, yes I would. But for me I’d probably do something more mainstream. I like to be punched in the face with peppermint flavor. This is more like a feather lightly brushing against my taste buds 🙂

Fetty Wap Honey Jalapeño RAP SNACKS Review

Although sweet and spicy is (arguably) the best flavor combination there is out there, I’m going to create a little suspense on these Honey Jalapeño RAP SNACKS chips.

First, you know, just because sweet and spicy usually does taste good, that’s no guarantee that RAP SNACKS has gotten the formula right. They could have made them too sweet or too spicy.

It really is about achieving a perfect balance.

And yeah, okay, RAP SNACKS has created other perfectly yummy and delicious chip options (non-dairy, too!) But let’s not assume that all of their chips are just as good. We have to taste them first.

My taste buds require a certain amount of flavor punch to feel satisfied. Time and time again, my chip reviews say that some random chip needs more salt, or needs salsa.

But, this is not about those lackluster disappointments, this is about Fetty Wap’s RAP SNACKS.

So, how do these Honey Jalapeño’s satisfy?

Well….

I give it a 10 out of 10!!!!

These chips are soooo good. Perfectly seasoned. The sweetness is in perfect balance with the spicy heat.

But it’s not just regular run of the mill heat, these actually do have the jalapeño flavor too.

They’re soo good.

I could easily polish off an entire bag by myself, in one sitting.

RAP SNACKS are so damn addictive, and the ingredients are pretty good too. Not too much sugar, actual honey in the ingredients. I could go on and on.

And, I’m so happy they have a fair amount of flavors without dairy. I don’t feel left out at all when I can’t get the popcorn because I have yummy chips to choose from.

Thanks RAP SNACKS!

Off The EATEN Path Crisps – Taste Review 1

Cool new snacks really get me excited.

I saw 5 bags of new crisps at 7-Eleven and I was beyond excited!

Out of the 5, only two were dairy-free. Thank goodness for that because they were also 3.79 a bag.

I was excited to try these! I’m not particularly fond of rice snacks but the addition of chickpeas and sweet potatoes made me think that they’d be hearty and satisfying.

Well, I was right somewhat.

First, though. The appearance. These crisps are beautiful.

I don’t even think I’ve called a food beautiful other than this.

But I don’t think anyone would deny the attractiveness of these babies.

I’d frame it if I could!

Yes we eat with our eyes first. But second comes the taste buds.

I’m starting to feel like a broken record when it comes to some of these snacks.

What I mean is this:

These are good but they’d be even better with some SALTY FLAVOR. They need salt.

Now, granted – these would pair well with a salsa or dip but these are not tortilla chips. There is nothing to indicate that they’d need something to accompany them.

Right out of the bag, these need some salt.

I’ll be fair, okay. I do like salt. Sometimes I even salt my food before tasting it. Bad habit, yes.

But facts are facts. These crisps will be eaten without a doubt. I’m gonna try a way to add salt and shake it around.

Other than that salt rant, the flavor of these is good. I can taste the sweet potato and it’s really delicious.

I’d definitely buy these again!

Now, I have one more flavor to try. Let’s see how they are 🙂

Breaking Down a Broken Heart

It sounds so sad – a broken heart. A key organ, symbolically broken. To be healed, hopefully.

If not healed then the sadness may consume you. That’s the way it goes when someone dies of a broken heart.

Love is not the only thing that can break a heart. It’s anything that you put your heart into that doesn’t work out.

Perhaps love is the only broken heart that can result in an extreme result like death. After all, love, being the strongest frequency, can have the strongest result as well.

At the root of a broken heart is desire… minus hope. Hope is lost that you’ll get what you wanted but… You still want it anyway.

That’s a particular form of torture, if you ask me.

The easy advice would be to stop putting your heart into things. Stop having desire(!) But that’s not practical.

In a way, we can’t help putting our heart into things.

Desire is largely an uncontrollable phenomenon.

Assuming that all of the above is true, the hard part is moving forward with your desires shattered but still a vision.

There are other things that go with a broken heart – loneliness, disappointment… I don’t really want to go into those things.

Instead of going deeper into what hurts, it’s better to search for the optimistic angle in this. Because there is always light in a tunnel.

What is the bright side in feeling broken hearted?

Well for starters, you can always start over. A fresh start can mean a lot.

More than that, I’ll go back to the advice that states: always find the winning angle.

Also, in the future, broken hearts can be avoided slightly.

How? By reducing your desire.

Hell yeah that’s easier said than done. I know it is. I know.

I also know that it can be done.

Not projecting your desires too far ahead will solve a lot of this.
Thinking about what things are right now versus what they could be also will keep you real.

Keep. Your. Head. Up.

Just like Tupac said.

It is exhausting to over think. It’s exhausting to hurt. It’s exhausting to yearn.

Give your mind a break.

Sleeping is nice. That is, until you wake up again thinking about the same heartbreak.

Someone needs to hear this:

You need to become stronger.

To end this article on heartbreak, I’ll give generic advice that’s nonetheless accurate, true, and comforting:

A broken heart is something that most people experience. It’s not the end of the world. You’ll be okay. Take your ego out of it. Move on. Don’t let them see you cry. The night is darkest before dawn.

There is always hope.

I’m finding it challenging to end this without giving something personal to you guys.

I’ve gotten my heart broken. Someone I had a lot of positive feelings for broke up with me. Their reason was that they didn’t think I liked them. I guess being affectionate isn’t my strong suit.

They were wrong tho. I liked them a lot. But my tears didn’t change their decision.

Later on, and then later on again, they tried to come back to me. Wanted to start more sparks, I guess.

But I don’t get over people making me cry very easily.

After they broke up with me, and after I cried about it, I began realizing certain things that wouldn’t have made me happy if we had stayed together.

It still hurt to see that person. I avoided them for a while. But now, years later, it doesn’t even matter.

Pain goes away in time.

The best advice I can give: find something productive to channel your painful energy into. Don’t spend all your time binge watching a show. Do something, create something. Alchemy.

Okay, that’s all folks. Peace and love.