Hey you guys!
I used to party a lot. Like, from Wednesday night to Monday morning, I was ready to have a good time.
My social life thrived. My responsibilities suffered.
This was before I became a Mom. Of course. And now, instead of a party for the sake of a party, the events I’m involved in now (yes, events…) are more professional and not just about letting loose. Not super buttoned up but the social responsibility is somewhat heavier.
It feels different now than it was then. Without a doubt, the responsibilities I have now when hosting do come with some anxiety when I just want to have a nice time.
What I do is pull inspiration from my care -free days to be more care -free now. It works for me and I think it’ll work for others, too.
In this case, the more simple, the better. So here are 3 tips that apply to every one and apply to every party!
1. Don’t Overthink
Yes this is common advice for anxiety but it has to be stated because it is important.
Over thinking the elements related to attending a party will stress you out.
Of course you should thoughtfully consider what you’ll wear and what the occasion is. But, your primary thoughts when it comes to attending the party should be “I’m going to have a good time.”
When we’re planning an event… Months in advance sometimes… I tell myself over and over again that I will have a nice time at this event. It works!
This mindset will carry you gracefully through the entire party, especially when something goes wrong. It’s easier to let unfortunate events roll off your back instead of letting it get you down.
Note: If you can no longer have a good time at the party, it’s okay to leave early.
For anxiety, the funnest parties to attend are the ones with a theme and with games and activities! If you’re attending this kind of party, go with it to the fullest extent that you can! Wear a costume and play the games!
This may sound redundant but the best way to have a good time at a party is to have a nice time!
Okay, now if you’re socially awkward, participating in activities is the best way to join in with everyone else. Even if it’s the party host asking for volunteers to bring snacks out, go ahead and volunteer!
If it’s a more casual party without a theme or games, you should probably bring a friend with you. Let the host know you’re bringing a friend.
Bringing someone gives you someone to hang with and talk to while you’re there. Make sure your friend understands this!
The dance floor is the safest place to be when you’re awkward at a party. It doesn’t even matter how well you dance. I’ve found that most people don’t care – only genuine assholes will laugh at someone’s dancing. Most people just want everyone to have a nice time.
On the dance floor, you won’t stand out for being alone. You can get lost in the music and get into your own zone.
Don’t even worry about what’s playing. If it has a beat, you can dance to it.
And, you know, if it’s dark then you really have no reason to worry about it.
Dancing is good for the soul!
Okay guys, go forth and enjoy yourselves!