*Author’s note: Here I am talking about stress today and I accidentally erased the entire post that I wrote! But instead of stressing, I’ve decided to take steps to avoid that from happening again. What do I mean? I’m typing this into a word processor (as I normally do) instead of directly into the WordPress app (which I don’t normally do) lol…
So. Stress. Stress management tips and methods. Also known as, how to not freak out and get overwhelmed.
There are two types of common stress: Self-Induced and Circumstantial.
Self-Induced stress means that the stressful situation could have been avoided if you had either:
- Reacted differently
- Or made better decisions.
If you’re like most people, you have a memory. And if you have a memory then you have the power to remember what happened.
Now, it’s important to note that you don’t want to dwell on bad experiences. You don’t want to live there mentally because if you do, you’ll re-live the stress and uncomfortable feelings over and over again until the end of time.
What to do? First, you have to have the ability to accept personal responsibility for what you did wrong in the bad experience. This takes self-awareness and maturity. It is worth it to develop these traits as it will serve you forever in your life.
Of course it’s not so easy but discipline will produce a level of authenticity in your life that can only come from being in control and disciplined.
Next, take a look at the bad experience and see what you could have done differently. Are there any signs that you missed? Any keywords that you didn’t pay attention to?
If you didn’t do anything wrong then all you need to do is let go of the situation and move on with your life.
If you did do something wrong then here’s what you can do:
- Make a note of what you don’t want to happen again.
- Determine how you need to make changes to your behavior.
- Move forward with confidence that you will make better decisions in the future.
It’s important to state again that reliving old stress is being mean to yourself. Holding on to things that hurt you is very undesirable and is a lack of self-control.
Discipline solves this because it allows you to give your energy to things and experiences that are going to move you forward in life, whether that’s mentally or physically. Moving on from trauma is an individual thing. But if other people do not allow you to move on, they either:
- Are clueless to how you feel, or
- They know exactly how you feel and they want to cause you pain.
You can choose how to move forward with those people. If they’re continually causing you anxiety then that abusive behavior needs to be cut off as soon as you can.
Now, let’s talk about Circumstantial Stress.
Circumstantial Stress can be short term or long term, it really depends on how you deal with it.
- Reacting badly can draw it out into another stressor that you don’t want to deal with.
- Reacting thoughtfully will allow the stress to roll off you like water droplets on duck feathers.
Yes, my dear. It is your RESPONSE that will determine how much stress you experience. That’s why this quote is so popular: “Life is 5% what happens to you and 95% how you react to it.”
Yeah, it’s a bit cliché at this point in quote history but it’s still true.
( Personally, I’d adjust the percentages to a 20%/80% balance but my way is less dramatic.)
Anyway, Let’s get back on subject!
SELF-DISCIPLINE, by way of controlled emotions, will save you all sorts of mental anguish.
Uncontrolled emotions will have you reacting to and attaching feelings to things that are not worth your emotional energy. Things that hurt you, or hurt other people, or hold you back, etc.
So many things in life are not worth feeling stressed out or anxious about.
But, undoubtedly, things will come into your life that SUCK but you have to DEAL WITH IT ANYWAY. That is apart of life. Here’s the game plan for that:
- Only deal with what is a fact (don’t assume),
- Don’t become emotionally invested,
- Develop the ability to redirect your thoughts to other things.
- Don’t let the stressful stuff become a part of your identity.
Personal development by way of self-discipline can help you to maintain a more balanced life.
I feel like I didn’t say enough about self-discipline so here are some other good things about discipline.
- Discipline is looking out for yourself.
- Discipline will prevent unnecessary pain, stress, and anxiety.
- Discipline is not easy to consistently implement. BUT being disciplined will increase your self-respect.
- Discipline will allow you to reach your goals and dreams.
- Discipline and routine will keep you emotionally balanced.
If you’ve reached this part, thank you so much for reading! I really do feel like there is more to add to this post but it has to come to an end here. Peace to you and leave me a comment if you have any thoughts. Thank you!